When Your Choice Doesn't Seem Right to Others!

Don't be surprised if someday Your situation contradicts Your Desire,
When Your Process of Establishing Self-Worth would be seen as a Selfish Attempt.

Don't be Upset if all your close ones start giving up on You,
Or confront Negativity about your Vision.

It is all a Phase, a Testing phase:
Test of your Determination and Perseverance
Test of their Trust upon You --
A right time for the Filtration, rather!

It is The 'Leap Of Faith' that would Sail You through...
Develop Empathy as you proceed.

You won't remember the minute details of this time later;
But you should.

Capture them as much as you can
To look back and diminish the Vanity of The Success,

 for you and those KEPT FAITH IN YOURSELF.

Cheers! ✌

Being Dumped Versus the Dumper!

Dear Victim,

Firstly, stop victimizing yourself! After being dumped, it is important to empower yourself. Admit that life was normal without the person, and it surely will again be. Yes, the colorful memories would hurt, but don’t you think you deserved them: since you were the only one intended!

Being cheated is not shameful, as much as ‘cheating’ is. Disgrace is for the person who just proved to be unworthy, the way you embraced him/her.

 Whatever the reason be, isn't it great that accidentally you are out of the unethical commitment, much before the complex mess you guys would have been contributing to. But if you are a person who seldom opens up, you have a reason to be upset. You would definitely not want the person back in your life again. Your maturity would not let you hate the person too. You would rather pity the person’s cowardliness and insensitivity. Out of all the choices you had, you would regret: Who did you choose, to open up to?

It is not a fairy tale to have a dedicated angel to fix your wounds. Sometimes the fairy is in You: YOURSELF. Dig your own thoughts to help yourself overcome the darkness. AND STOP LISTENING TO THOSE SAD SONGS!

And Our Dearest Accused & the Silent Observers (the so-called Friends of the accused),

If after cheating or mocking someone’s emotions, your conscience does not question you; you ain’t yet bothered about the psychological status of the person you dumped? In fact you are happy, and perhaps have moved on with another one in your arms? Raising toast with same old friends, who used to catch up and appreciate the older one as much as they welcome the new one? Or perhaps they liked the new one more, because they can’t argue on your decisions: Your Life, Your RULEZZ!!! Then you should just not worry about the person anymore, nor should your Friends! Worry about yourselves! You lack the emotions basis which you could have claimed to be a human!

And never call yourself Daring, or for that matter, a MAN. You did not have the guts to confront or move out ‘ethically’!

Although for your victim, it is better to have been lifted now, than to have been abandoned forever, but you are that LEECH, the One WRONG CHOICE that would perhaps CLOSE all the right gates too!

And don’t just worry about what should be done to you. We leave that to Karma! If not you, we are sure you would have someone beloved already, or perhaps soon, to be taken care of. Just start taking extra care of your most beloved from now on!

They recommend: "Acknowledge the one who expresses to have been truly in love with you". Crap! 'They' have been spoiling many lives by quoting from some book by an impractically mad man. Rarely anybody means what they say these days, but for ease just prepare a proposal with the help of some romantic books or internet or friends. Practically, you should also see who is right for you, and NEVER SETTLE for ANYTHING you THINK you DON'T DESERVE!!!! Someone, who would not ask to change, but keep contributing to Improve YOU.

 So when next time, someone says: "I would take care of you, and everything that belongs to you!", or even, "Let's try this out, I promise it would be fine, otherwise I promise to keep things back in place (friendship), as they were, like nothing happened ever!" Just ask yourself to assess if it's a TRAP: 'Can he or she really do what just said?', "How?", "Does he have a secret magic wand or a TIME MACHINE, I am unaware of? :O :P Your questions are not embarrassing the person or the ability, but respecting yourself, to which the right person should really not have any problem! And BEWARE of the: "But, I want you to change this habit of yours!" Just throw whatever comes to hand, straight onto the face, IN YOUR MIND!

Disclaimer: I have been criticized to be more of a feminist, however, I expect this post would be a rebuttal or a compensation.

Commotion in the River

I flow Naturally
Resonating the Melancholic Rhythm
Being the Paradise to sit beside
from staring at Your Own face
To the Stars on its surface..
Don't shy away from the responsibilities of the Dependent Lives..
Yet am Sweet, Swift, Mischievous, Unpredictable: Full of Life!
Until I am stopped by Your Machineries
Attempting to Mould my way
Or Restrict my Flow...

I bear the Forced calmness now
Heaping to a Suffocation
A volcano erupting in Me,

soon preparing to burst
Would Break away all the Walls
Destroy each who Tied Me
The soothing persona
Would convert to
a Weapon of Mass destruction!!

Screw the Crap

Few moments might have been a game for YoU
To easily give up on
No matter how it gambled with my thoughts!
The much warm hug
might have turned into a careless spree
But it was a Stir
enough to revive me, again.. 
like never before, again
to extend my wings, again
to listen to the self, again
to scream through the words
to dream through the woods
the peeking rays
Rise, shine on
Get up to a new Morning!
For it wasn't worth
to be called as a Life!
For Life is Me:
Imperfect, Messed, Carefree
Yet Joyful, Responsible, Proud & Rocking!
I am too full to be half-loved.
A Solitaire, hard to clone
That's me, 'Asmi' !!! :* :*

So, Is it a Yes?

It's not about a 'Yes'..
It's about the Expectation that follows!
The fear of losing,
And the Pride of Getting...
To fill the need for a 'Willful' Presence;
The guts of both Public & Societal Acceptance!

Beyond that,
'Yes' is about the essence of Intangibility;
The wait over any Time & Distance.
The sense of reading the Silence,
The Curiosity behind every "Hmm" Replies,
Hearing the Screams behind the Numb Lips,
The patience while Madness...
And all of it Reciprocated,
Celebrating prolonged togetherness!

Musical, Crazy, Fun, intense, passionate & Daring..
Else the "Yes" can't be Pursued !!

Delhi: CALM THE SPIRITUAL INSTINCT

    Are you also among the many Delhiites, who LOVE to Travel, to visit the Religious Places to draw Resourceful Positive Vibes??? And work or studies do not allow you to pack the bags? Aah no worries! How about looking for the solace at your own territory. I've been sailing the same boat, where liking others' check-ins and pictures were the only option left, until a light struck my head: Have I explored Delhi completely, that am cribbing to go out? Hell no! So, here's how I found peace of mind in the weekends, amidst the scorching heat or chilling mist of Delhi. For the buZy-bees, Delhi is no less than the 'paradise of the exotic'! Listed below are few of the SPIRITUAL destinations, that I have explored on Saturdays, that made me realize Delhi is way beyond the artificial entertainment, parties, boozing etc. I welcome you all to feel Delhi through my lens.

1. Sacred Cathedral Church

The best time to be here is during Christmas or Good Friday. The Church looks no less than villa during those days. Its fine on other days too. I felt nice while lighting candles in-front of the Mother Mary sculpture.

2. Rakaabganj Gurudwara

The Kadaa Prasad (offering) is as delicious as a piece of snow from heaven could be. Oily though, its supposed to received in right palm. And I learnt to rub the left over ghee over both the palms.

3. BanglaSahib Gurudwara

Eating Langar is a must-do ji. Followed by Sewa to calm the soul, anytime in the day or night. The door to solace is open 24×7. To sit beside the holy lake, especially under the night sky, is a good place for some self-realization, or discover certain answers that lie within. There are numerous roadside shops too to buy souvenirs from.

4.  Lotus Temple

In spite of being founded by Bahai believers, the lotus-shaped shrine warmly welcomes followers of all the religions to peacefully recall their Creator.

Delhi: Shopping Hub

I am not a brand person, at least until I can't assess the quality myself. So this part is for those who know what they want and how it should be, not for the ones who like it hanging on a mannequin. Let me take you all to the 'Bargaining Zones'.

Old Delhi, for me is the heart of Delhi. I can sense how our ancestors were until the 90s.

1. Chandni Chowk

There's a narrow lane that opens to the Chandni Chowk metro station. At the beginning is a Chaat Joint. Replenish your taste bud with the yummilicious Aloo Chaat, and then enter the lane and look out for ladies Suit-materials at comparatively cheap prices.

2. Ballimaran

Famous for its shoes wholesale market, but only for the retailers who purchase in bulk. But there are few shops open for customers. To reach here, take a rickshaw from Chandni Chowk Metro Station and don't be surprised if you find a pair of fair quality shoes in merely Rs. 250, or a silver Peep-toe with a bow tie in just Rs. 200.

3. Azaad Market (near Tis Hazari metro station):

Fill your kitchen with attractive but reasonable-priced crockery from Azaad Market. Collection is huge: from artistic to ethnic to modern style.

4. Sadar Bazaar:

It is famous for its varieties of items available at 'Thok-Ke-Bhaao', including stuffs to organize theme parties, or decorative cute or glittery items for home. And not to forget, good quality studded bangles!

5. Bartan Market

Yeaah, it is self explanatory to acquire ilk of utensils. But what attracts more is a shop that sells great quality self-made purses and bags, that wouldn't let anyone enter a showroom again: Sylvia (#479). What's the Catch?? THE PRICE!!!!

6. Janpath to CP

The Janpath market lane is at a Walking distance from the newly made Janpath metro station. The street is filled with everything: clothes, bags, shoes, accessories, junk jewelries. .. just carry the eagle eyes along. The accessories shop at left, little ahead of the entrance is a must-go to buy any accessory for just Rs. 30 only. Although one can find the same at selected locations of Central Market too.

Out of the lane, walking towards CP, stop at the Regal Building, named after the movie theatre: Regal. It is one of the colonial times infrastructure: the height and style of the shop doors tells it all, as if entering a Brit's office. A bag store in the building is great to look around for leather purses and even travel bags: good quality and very reasonable price. On the street are again the accessories sellers: cheap, glittery, colourful and stylish.

Further ahead, in front of the Khadi store, at the corner should be the next must stoppage to buy dresses and stylish tops ranging from Rs.150 to 250 ONLY. I guess Honey Singh hasn't visited this place yet, otherwise it wouldn't really go like 'Sarojani ke kapde pehenkr jaati madam disco..' (wears clothes from Sarojani to go to disc).